My wrists were often twisted backwards. On this day, my middle finger was pushed all the way backwards until I could feel and hear it pop. I was lying in bed sick. He was angry because I didn’t want to get up and cook dinner. He sat on me, and twisted both wrists, then popped my finger. I was black and blue for a month. I still have pain from time to time in this area.
The link above is an email John sent to me after he realized I really wanted a separation. He cut off all finances while I was at a hotel for safety. I had just flown back into CA from attending the birth of my Grandson in Texas. John had warned me that there would be hell to pay when I returned home. He told me I would need to sit down on the chair and take it. That I was not aloud to speak, only repent. My son witnessed this warning on speaker phone the night before I departed DFW airport in Texas. Upon my return to San Francisco, I grew more fearful. I ended up checking into a hotel that night. I later text John to let him know I was tired, it was late, and I felt we should meet at home the following day. John spoke of burning, fire, hell a lot. He called me Jezabel. He said, “Jezabel burns. ” Freaky considering he stored 45 gallons of gasoline on the side of our home in Pacheco Valle. He was unhinged most of the time.
John often communicates in cryptic form on his Facebook. It was norm to me. I take this email as a warning. Looking back now, absolutely it was a WARNING. He has carried it out for the past few years. He isn’t done I assure you. The reason I am afraid of him after all of these years? He told me I betrayed him “Spiritually. ” That I was the love of his life. That he had waited all of his life to meet me. I had no right to leave him. He always told me that God gave me to him.
We met at St. Helena Catholic Church. He later told me he had been watching me for 3 weeks. At that point I had no clue who he was. He believed God told him we were meant to be. We attended Mass multiple times per week. It was never enough. It grew weird as he seemed delusional at times. So in the end, he told me I betrayed him.
What he didn’t realize is that I did love him, but I left him because of his violence. 9 months of the Mankind Batterer program seemed to make him worse. He knew I was about to file for a Legal Separation, and then strategically filed a Dissolution first. It took me years to get over the Spiritual Abuse. The Oceans’s Roar haunts…
I am disappointed and ashamed of Dr. Peter Velyvis, John’s brother. He is an endodontist on the East Coast and is a decade younger than John. He blatently lied to protect John concerning communications between myself, and his wife Christine Velyvis from a period of summer 2017 to January 2018. His lies were used as EXHIBITS during our divorce in CA. They put me in a false light.
The fraudulent EXHIBITS consisted of emails between Christine Velyvis and myself, then forwarded to Peter Velyvis. It is not clear whether Christine Velyvis forwarded them to Peter, or if he forwarded them from his wife’s email to himself. Either way, the emails were then forwarded to Dr. John Velyvis’s underhanded divorce lawyer. In the emails to John’s lawyer, Dr. Peter Velyvis simply cuts and pastes fragments of the emails between myself and his wife. He made it “appear” that I had been communicating with him as well which is a lie. I have NEVER been in contact with him.
I contacted Christine Velyvis about her husband forwarding the emails to John’s attorney. She stated it was the first she had heard of it. She reminded me that John had threatened Peter with legal action should he fail to turn over any emails I had sent to them during our separation. Regardless, the fact that the emails were altered is wrongful.
In court, John stated his “family” had to block me because of the emails and calls. That is not true.
- There were not many emails, and Christine responded to them. There was never an issue;
- I only called her two or three times in a 9 month period. I left voice messages. She emailed me back. The blocking issue was a fabrication.
- Bottom line is that it isn’t against the law to communicate about separation with in-laws. I was very much silent with all but my sister-in-law, Christine Velyvis.
During our marriage, I was tight lipped with John’s siblings due to abuse. I had a “somewhat” relationship with my mother-in-law. John was estranged from his brother, Dr. Peter Velyvis. John told me he didn’t get along with Peter’s wife, Christine Velyvis. Regardless, Christine and I were both married to the brothers. She and I were Facebook friends, but didn’t communicate very much. They live on the East Coast and we on the West Coast.
Even though Christine and I were only related by marriage to the Velyvis brothers, we did communicate during my separation period. I never reached out to my mother-in-law, Claire Velyvis, my sister-in-law, Kristin Velyvis, or my brother-in-law, Dr. Peter Velyvis.
Dr. John Velyvis has two siblings, Dr. Peter Velyvis and Kristin Velyvis. His mother, Claire Velyvis is alive, and his father G. John Velyvis passed in 2014. After I separated from John, I did not communicate with any of them. This is important to note as Dr. John Velyvis has lied to others concerning me contacting his mother, brother and sister. I assure none of them would ever be able to substantiate the claim as I never did. The only family member I was in contact with was Christine Velyivs, who is Dr. Peter Velyvis’s wife. Again, we were both married to a Velyvis brother. The brothers were estranged.
John Velyvis threatened his brother with legal action, and little brother complied. Brother’s that both were and are covering up domestic violence. Two men with medical degrees. Pillars of our society? They should be held to a higher standard.
I have provided a link to the email correspondence between Christine and myself. Peter Velyvis simply sent my emails with no correspondence from his wife, and stated my emails were “unsolicitated. ”
I would like to give some background to the December 2017 email I wrote. I received a “scant” portion of Divorce Discovery from John on or about December 21, 2017. As I was reviewing partial Bank Statements from him, I was taken aback by the way the credit card told the story of John’s courtship to this Kaitlyn Rebecca Dickens “AKA” Kaitlyn Woods. I believe John deliberatley charged the items for me to see them during the divorce process. This is the first moment I found out he was with this girl. The same girl he was exchanging emails with during our marriage.
The timeline: vacations, new Mercedes purchase, wedding ring, limo, tux rental, wedding attire, the Fairmont Hotel stay in San Francisco, and a florist. It was most obvious that this was a “recreaction” of our wedding at the Fairmont Hotel in San Francisco. Also, charges for false eyelash extensions, weaves, nails, pedicure, and such.
The whole thing was baffling. I felt I was reading the wrong bank statement. Thinking he must have sent our wedding. However, I never had eyelash extensions and weaves. I then saw the actual name Kaitlyn Dickens on the credit card for an airline ticket. I was taken aback at this “Mock Wedding. ” John and I were not divorced. I also just got out of a spinal sugery procedure. I reached out to my sister-in-law, Christine Velyvis.
I am of the opinion that they are binding together to keep up appearances. Two doctors, that are brothers. One Harvard and one Tufts. Prestige is more important than what is right with this family. Not the whole family but the immediate family.
Abuse letter1Letter From Our Next Door Neighbor in 2016